Have you ever used the ‘F’ word online? Called someone a Nazi? A Communist? How about the words ‘lie’, ‘atrocity’, or any pithy comparison to what the bull left behind? Or perhaps you never pour such vinegar through your keyboard. Maybe you prefer the more ‘civilized’ approach. Your missives are gentle, even scholarly.
More important, have you ever complained about someone else’s language? Either complaining that you are mistreated by other commenters, or calling for pragmatic civility?
To paraphrase Godwin’s Law, as any online discussion grows longer, the probability someone will begin griping about civility and style approaches one. Is an angry person necessarily wrong? Is the calm, soft-spoken, polysyllabic, seemingly humble person more likely to be right? Are we even looking for right and wrong, or are we looking for pleasing and displeasing?
It’s easy to sample hot rhetoric: Bush is Hitler. Gore is a socialist (or ‘commie’ – a word that is beginning to resurface after a long hiatus). Hillary is Satan. Any government action (such as gun control, or environmental regulation) is two quick steps from the gulag. Liberals should be rounded up and shot. Conservatives are facists. Before long you will hear the phrase “shouting past each other” and of course the term; “bashing”.
You can’t say ‘atrocity’, let alone the ‘F’ word, without a fellow leftie saying; “Hey, you’re being too rude and you won’t persuade people that way!” Thus the pragmatic argument for civility is born. We should pretend, say the nannies, to be less angry than we are so people will listen to us.
How about we stop prescribing how other people should ‘be’? The national debate might really take all kinds. Some people are turned off by blandness, some by spice. Let me suggest there’s freedom in looking past style to substance. Try to pay less attention to how someone talks and more to what they’re saying. Being ‘nice’ is overrated but it’s hard to overstate the importance of clarity.
At the very least, you can build a rebuttal that is more on-point. The fact that you found their language too stuffy or too profane, or you didn’t like a comparison, has nothing to do with how right they are.
As for what language you should use, I can’t advise you. Language is like clothing – dress comfortably and let others wear what they want. The important thing is that it covers what it’s intended to cover.
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Not bored yet? Here’s how the discussion started: three of my favorite blogs took up the issue of civility and online discourse, starting with Creek Running North:
“I have decided I no longer trust anyone who insists on others being civil. The bumper sticker from ten years ago said “If you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention.” That needs updating. If you’re not outraged, then you’ve decided that the suffering that exists in the world is just fine with you, as long as you don’t feel it.”
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PZ Meyers predictably agreed:
“I’m all for outrage! Especially since lately there have been a few too many commenting whiners who are getting pissy because I think goose-stepping theocrats are evil, or that creationists are idiots, or that politicians who monitor our phone calls are tyrannical scumbags. If you’re complaining because I don’t compromise in damning these people, rather than complaining about what they do, the problem isn’t me: it’s your superficiality.”
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But Alon Levy at UTI took a third way:
“Bickering about civility is about as useful as bickering about Oxford commas (by the way: everyone who omits Oxford commas is an evil fascist, I tell you!). My style is wonkish; deal with it. I don’t criticize Maryscott O’Connor for “Rage, rage against the lying of the right”; don’t criticize me for “The right is wrong because of these reasons.”
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(Niceness is a veneer, or even a varnish over the content that it covers. If we were a little less sensitive, both in giving and receiving, we could actually pull the issue out into the sunlight and deal with it.)
Creek Running North updates the topic with Matters of weight